Healing Together Through Our Grief

A Ceremonial Gathering

Date Change:
Saturday, December 10th 6pm -
Sunday, December 11th 12pm

At Gather Northport

Northport, MI

Have you had a deeply challenging last few years through the pandemic and feeling a sense of numbness, shutdown, isolation or anxiety regularly? 


Does this time of year bring up subtle or great sadness for you that you just can't explain and feels like a heavy burden?

Are you wanting to feel more aliveness in your life and greater ease in your relationships with your family?

Are you taking the next big step in your life and feeling like there are some big emotional blocks that are holding you back?

All of these experiences can be caused by unexpressed grief that can be both personal and shared. While we often think of grief coming from the death of a loved one, we can be going through grief for so many reasons in our lives. This course can help you to understand and feel through your current experience of grieving in order to live more fully.


Learn more . . . .

The world has been changing at an increasing rate and we are called to continue changing as well to cultivate greater resilience to meet these challenges from a place of greater wholeness. It’s from this wholeness that we are better able to meet our needs as well as those of our families, communities and the collective. Grief comes with all of our experiences of change and is a challenge that we all face now more than ever. Grief can also separate us from our wholeness if we don’t allow ourselves to move through it and learn from it. You are invited to take a step into honoring your wholeness in community amidst the many ways that we can feel torn and drawn in different directions. Let us instead come together both within ourselves and in community to heal together. In so many traditions and for many of our ancient ancestors, grieving is and was a collective practice. For those of us who have been separated from this communal healing practice we can once again return to it in tender, loving and profound ways. 


Join us for this overnight experience at the beautiful Gather Northport retreat center to get a taste of a process of healing through grief that can be nourishing and grounding, joyful and expressive, comforting and connective as well as a growth experience. We will be using our bodies, our breath, our knowing and our creative expression as our guides to awaken latent wisdom that can offer us greater resource and resilience amidst the challenges we face. Inspired by the Tibetan Buddhist tradition and somatic movement, this gathering will invite you to learn about and move through the directions and layers of grief in gentle and powerful ways. We are all united through our grief and it is in grieving, especially with others, that we are able to remember who we truly are and what we are here to be and do in service to all beings. 


The intention is to support you to move through layers of grief and to learn from it as we learn from each other in community. In the evening on Saturday, there will be teachings offered as well as a grief ceremony that will include a trauma informed mindful movement practice to support your embodied healing. The morning on Sunday will include a gentle embodied movement and meditation practice as well as sharing together to cultivate community before we return home. There will be a nourishing vegetarian dinner, late night snack and breakfast served. There is the option to stay overnight at the lovely lakeside Gather Northport home or to commute. There will also be an optional online integration session offered the following week.  There will also be an optional online integration session offered the following week. 















 Schedule of the Gathering: 


Arrival 6pm 

Dinner 6:30pm

Opening Circle 7:30pm


    -Opening sharing

    -Grief Wheel teachings

    -Grief Ceremony

    -Brief Sharing

Late night snack 10:30pm



Breakfast 8:30

Morning Circle 9:30pm

    -Movement & Meditation


    -Sharing in diads or large group 

    -Next steps & Closing 

Ending by 12pm 



Through this gathering you will receive:

  • Tools and practices to address grief and that will support you to heal through your grieving process

  • An understanding and perspective of how we are all in grief and grieving collectively

  • An experiential taste of how grieving can open us to our joy, our creativity, the beauty of life and our ability to celebrate and connect more deeply

  • Practicing resourcing your own inner wisdom through our body

  • Practices to help you boost your immune system as we go into winter and the busy holiday season

  • Connection to others who are willing to feel through their healing and grow together in community

  • Support for your own personal healing practice at home

  • Two nourishing, healthy vegetarian meals (dinner and breakfast) and late night snacks

  • The healing support of Lake Michigan


These teachings are inspired by many traditions and come directly from Joanna Macy, Ph.D, who is an author, teacher, scholar of Buddhism, systems things and deep ecology. She developed The Work that Reconnects. Hilary collaborated with Grandmother Kaariina Saarinen, a shamanic bloodline chief and pipe carrier, and offered an online Grief Wheel Facilitation Training last winter together.

There are also threads from Tibetan Buddhism and Body Mind Centering including . . .

*His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, Chökyi Nyima Rinpoche, Lama Willa Blythe Baker, Lama Tsultrim Allione

*Sky Otter (Bill Pfeiffer), Founder of the Sacred Earth Network

*Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen, Founder of Body Mind Centering, Christine Cole, Found of Somatic Body Training

*Embody Lab teachers of the Embodied Social Justice and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certifications

*All clients & students all are living Mastery

Here's what others are saying:

I moved into a new realm of experience and awareness with Hilary. The combination of guided meditation, contemplation, body awareness, movement and sound was a delicious and nutritive feast for my heart and mind. By tracing the emergence of my physical being into the world I feel more connected to the creative process that continues to create and recreate me every day. What a beautiful gift. 


Hilary guides a grounded and heart expansive moving community process.  She connects the body to the collective. I feel more whole and tenderly present to the possibility life could have more ease. 


-Z, Founder of Embody More Love

Throughout my work with Hilary I've increased my capacity to love myself, and feel the depths of gratitude as much as the depths of grief. I feel lighter, more at peace, kind, and gentle with myself, and in so much gratitude for my life. I'm really grateful for how she showed up and met me where I was, and for holding her own intuitive guidance, and allowing our ebbs and flows to go with the plan or veer off the tracks as needed. I am so grateful for being deeply held, seen, accepted, validated, and supported in my process, allowing an unfolding with ease and gentleness and curiosity in a nonjudgmental space to move, feel excited, and be!

-Jessica Mortel, business owner and healer

Hilary holds a compassionate and responsibly shared space for learning, feeling, and experiencing a more integrative flow in relationship with our ancestors, the earth, her elements, and various layers of our human community - including the wild interconnected nature within!

- F.S.


Hilary holds a deeply authentic, grounded and generous human. I felt accepted and met right where I was with no judgment or expectations- safe. She shares powerful practices & tools, a way to live that connects us to ourselves, each other and the world and elements around us. I am grateful and inspired. Thank-you!

-Jenn Evans, massage therapist

Facilitator Bio:


Hilary Lake, MDiv, RSME (she/her/they) is a healing arts community minister and somatic movement educator who helps people align with their bodies and values in enlivening ways. She welcomes people into mindful embodiment practices that bring greater awareness, connection and deepening love into their lives. She worked at the Fetzer Institute, graduated from Harvard Divinity School with an MDiv in Buddhist Ministry and spent time in Thailand, India and Nepal studying Theravada and Tibetan Buddhism. She also lived in and ran retreat centers focused on embodied healing and Earth based traditions for years and she’s certified in various embodied healing modalities including Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy and Embodied Social Justice. Hilary has also been an inner city interfaith chaplain during the pandemic and is now living on Anishinaabe land in Petoskey, MI. She loves to connect with people who want to integrate loving awareness in action into all aspects of their lives.

Learn more about Hilary.



Self Investment:


Commuting Rate: $300 

Overnight Rate: Commuting Rate + Overnight Rate for Different Rooms

$190 for the primary guest room with private bathroom 

$170 for the upstairs guest room with adjacent full bathroom

$160 for the downstairs guest room with adjacent bathroom

$130 for the sleeper sofa room with private half bath and adjacent bathroom

Register below and email hilaryjlake@gmail.com to sign up for overnight


There are also a couple work study and scholarship options

(Email hilarylake@gmail.com for more information)
Your registration is refundable until December 3rd

You can sign up for a free discovery call with Hilary to see if this ceremonial gathering

is right for you at this time. 

We welcome you to join us

for this unique and nourishing experience in community. 

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